Recently Published Newsletter- Marriage : Beyond Consciousness
I am delighted to share that the latest edition of Beyond Consciousness has sparked some intriguing and meaningful questions from our readers. Here, I present the answers to these thought-provoking queries.
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Why is there such a significant gap between the ideal form of marriage (as described in the newsletter) and what we see around us in reality?
The difference between the form of marriage described in the newsletter and what we observe in society today stems largely from a shift in mindset. While many individuals genuinely long for a spiritual and meaningful relationship, the prevailing social constructs often prioritize materialistic needs over deeper connections.
In today’s world, we are constantly inundated with information through reels, videos, and an overwhelming number of opinions on every topic—more than at any point in history. This continuous bombardment has contributed to a societal environment increasingly oriented toward materialism. However, this does not mean that healthy and fulfilling relationships do not exist; rather, they may be overshadowed by the dominant materialistic trends.
Why do relationships often exhibit chaos, such as conflicts of thoughts, misunderstandings, miscommunication, dominance, and bias?
The human mind has a natural tendency to complicate things, and relationships often reflect this through chaos, including conflicts of thoughts, misunderstandings, miscommunication, dominance, and bias. These issues primarily arise from past experiences that trigger unresolved emotions and a partner's inability to understand and respond with maturity when needed.
From an astrological perspective, each individual navigates different mahadashas (planetary periods) throughout life, bringing unique challenges and transformations. As these mahadashas shift, so do the circumstances and characteristics of the individual, often leading to changes in the dynamics of a marriage. This change introduces new challenges that require understanding, patience, and adaptability from both partners.
In relationships (whether blood relations or societal ones), why is there often an element of overdominance?
The human mind has a natural tendency to overcomplicate concepts, and over the years, this has led to the widespread propagation of a distorted definition of love. Often, if someone we care about acts contrary to our expectations, it is mistakenly perceived as an act of betrayal. Similarly, when visiting a grandmother's house, her insistence on force-feeding is seen as an act of love.
This simple observation reveals how deeply ingrained the association between love and control has become in our psyche. However, true love is and should always be rooted in freedom, not control or coercion.
How can one achieve the balance of free-flowing femininity and guiding masculinity in a world dominated by power struggles?
Regular Daily Routined Meditation.
Is it essential to have a partner who shares your spiritual interests and values, such as a focus on self-development and abstaining from behaviors like drinking or smoking?
In my experience with astrology, the changes brought about by Mahadasha shifts can significantly influence a person’s habits, preferences, and overall outlook on life. For instance, someone who once consumed non-vegetarian food might become a vegetarian and embrace a religious lifestyle during a new Mahadasha. Similarly, a spiritual individual may drift away from spirituality if they are not mindful and careful about their path.
These transformations underline the dynamic nature of human behavior and relationships. In the context of marriage, such changes make understanding the cornerstone of a successful and enduring partnership.
How can one navigate relationships where spiritual alignment seems absent?
There is a clear distinction between a toxic relationship and one that faces obstacles to overcome. In a healthy relationship, challenges can be navigated if both individuals are willing to learn, unlearn, and relearn, while remaining open to exploring new ideas. This mindset provides a pathway to nurture and grow even in relationships where spiritual alignment may initially seem absent.
Is the purpose of marriage truly to uplift oneself spiritually, or has it evolved into something more rooted in societal expectations?
There is no inherent purpose to anything. Happiness and satisfaction do not require a purpose; they can exist naturally, as they are expressions of our true conscious nature. It is the mind that constantly seeks purpose and meaning.
As the Bhagavad Gita beautifully explains: a fast mind is chaotic, a calm mind is saintly, and a no mind is divine (Godliness). This state of divinity can be achieved through meditation (Dhyan).
The purpose of marriage, in this context, is to remind each other of our existence and to complement one another. However, even within the bond of marriage, the spiritual journey remains a deeply personal and solitary path.
Should one avoid marriage until they find a partner who supports their spiritual growth, or is marriage primarily about fulfilling karmic accounts, even if it involves compromises?
In my experience and observation, marriage seems to be something predetermined—the person, the challenges, the love, and the joys are all predecided. What truly matters is honesty with your partner.
Honesty about what? It’s about being transparent regarding your:
Sexual desires
Financial plans and limitations
Spiritual path
Understanding of societal norms and values
If both partners are understanding and accept these aspects, then marriage can be a harmonious union.
This does not mean one should embark on a quest for "true love" or a "soulmate." Instead, the focus should be on self-care and pursuing what genuinely matters to oneself. When you are true to yourself, the right connections naturally align.
How can these insights about marriage and relationships be communicated effectively to all generations, including parents?
The first step is to be clear about what you truly want. Every relationship we have—whether with parents, siblings, or a romantic partner—is an extension of ourselves, and we are responsible for how we respond to these connections.
Now, the question of how to communicate effectively across generations is insightful. Each generation has its own unique language and ways of understanding. The communication gap arises because, for example, parents from the 1960s may struggle to communicate with a child from the 1980s, and so on. To bridge this gap, one must understand how each generation has been influenced by its environment, culture, and experiences. By studying these influences, you can learn how to communicate in a way that resonates with each generation.
Just like every lock has a specific key, each generation has a unique way of being reached—and there is no lock without its key.
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Once, the Buddha visited a village and encountered a skeptic who challenged him. The skeptic pointed to a tiny plant in a pot and asked, "If you are truly enlightened, tell me—will this plant live or die?" The Buddha sat quietly, meditating for a moment, and then replied, "It will live." The skeptic uprooted the plant, threw it away, and mocked the Buddha, claiming he was wrong.
Two days later, a heavy rainstorm occurred, and the plant’s roots took hold in the ground, growing stronger than ever. Surprised, the skeptic sought out the Buddha again and asked, "How did you know the plant would survive?" The Buddha calmly responded, "I meditated on the seed of the plant and observed its will to live."
Similarly, when you get married, it’s important to consider the mindset you are entering. The mindset of both families plays a crucial role in shaping the quality of the soul that will emerge from the union. A pessimistic mindset often gives birth to a weaker soul, while an optimistic one nurtures a strong, evolved soul. Mindset truly matters, and it’s vital to take care of it.
Yours,
Vishal Rajput
