Dear Readers,
Welcome back to this week's edition of Agama’s Message by Agama Shakti. 🌟 Today’s topic is both interesting and important for parents and single individuals alike. 👨👩👧👦 I am going to share an inspiring story about my beloved friend Rose, a single mother who, in my perspective, is doing an exceptionally good job. 💪 However, this story isn't just about parenting our children but also about parenting ourselves. 🌱
I conduct Inner Child Healing sessions where I teach adults how to parent themselves. 🧘♀️ This newsletter is for anyone who wants to heal and reparent themselves. ❤️
Parent V/S Parenting
Let's begin by understanding the difference between being a parent and parenting someone. Being a parent is merely bringing a human into this world, whereas parenting is about nurturing that human into a well-rounded being. Sadly, in today’s society, many people simply give birth and then leave their children to the mercy of circumstances. Providing food, shelter, and education should not be considered the entirety of parenting.
Parenting involves teaching a child to be emotionally balanced, mentally capable of distinguishing right from wrong, intellectually empathetic, and kind towards everyone. Unfortunately, this is often not the case. Many parents today hand their children a screen—mostly a mobile phone or a tablet—and consider their job done. This approach is fundamentally flawed.
Self Parenting
I will be sharing my personal experience with inner child healing for adults. What I have noticed is that due to wrong parenting, adults often develop self-doubt, narcissistic behavior, a constant need for approval, and over- or under-ambition. The first thing we do during the session is forgive our parents because it’s their first time being a parent and your first time being a kid. Then, we forgive ourselves and begin to be a kid again. Finding happiness and allowing yourself to be happy is a challenge for many, and that’s what we focus on during self-parenting.
Here are a few things that can help:
🎨 Color Therapy - Start painting and use colors to express your emotions.
🕰️ Discipline Routine - Just like you would expect a kid to go to bed on time, treat yourself the same way.
🍎 Healthy Diet and Writing Affirmations - Affirmations may seem like they have very little effect, but over time, they have a strong impact on our subconscious brain.
🗳️ Take Decisions - Allow yourself to make decisions.
🤔 Think Less About Consequences - Don’t overthink.
Buds of Rose 🌹
My dear friend Rose 🌹 is an Ayurvedic practitioner and a mother of three beautiful children. We often discuss parenting, and there are many things she does that make me incredibly proud. Let me tell you, it's not an easy task. Rose has taken on the challenge of homeschooling her children, providing them with home-cooked Ayurvedic food 🍲, and allowing them to enjoy nature by living close to it, rather than in the city 🌳.
The easiest route for her would have been to stay in the city 🏙️, enroll the kids in school, and shuttle them from one class to another. But what makes her approach amazing is her willingness to break away from the norms of a world running in a matrix. Her children are allowed to play with colors 🎨, run on lush green grass 🌿, swim in ponds and lakes 🏞️, interact with butterflies 🦋, and express their feelings freely 😊.
If you compare a prison and a modern school, you'll notice they look very similar. However, when you compare them with the ancient Vedic system, you'll see a stark difference. As a society, we need to improve the education system for our children. Rose's approach allows her kids to truly experience and enjoy their childhood, which I believe is the correct form of parenting.
Challenge
Here comes the challenge: no matter how correctly one parent, each child's journey is unique and unpredictable. A parent can't fully prepare for the future because every phase of a child's life brings new challenges. A teenager has a different temperament than a child, and a young adult faces a whole other set of challenges.
With the upbringing style Rose provides, her kids will definitely enjoy life. She keeps them away from screens, which I think is the smartest thing she is doing as a mother—a practice all parents should adopt today. However, despite her efforts, she may still receive complaints. But I guess that is a part of being a parent. And she would have this newsletter to show them, haha! 😄
Responsibility
Having a child should be a conscious decision. It is the decision to bring a soul into this world, and if the ultimate goal of having a child is to secure your retirement plan, then one should not have a child. If the thought behind having a child is that they will take care of you when you get old, then old age homes would not be filled with people who have multiple children.
If your vision for your child is to educate them only to prepare them to pay taxes all their life, that does not sound like a pleasing life. If you want them to be very rich and enjoy the materialistic world, that too has been tried and doesn't provide true satisfaction. Additionally, the person will have to deal with mental and physical problems.
If you have a child, it is your responsibility to guide them toward enlightenment and healthy living. They should not be unduly influenced by society but should be encouraged to do what is right.
Closing Remark
Dear Readers,
As we conclude this newsletter, I want to leave you with the important lesson of being a conscious parent to both yourself and your kids. It's okay to make mistakes, but it's also crucial to learn from them and listen to your children, including your inner child.
I hope you've enjoyed this edition of Agama’s Message. Don't forget to Like 👍, Share 🌟, and Subscribe ✉️.
Feel free to reach out to me with any suggestions, remarks, admiration, or questions at agamashakti@gmail.com.📧
Yours,
Vishal Rajput ❤️